You can only 'better' yourself when you stop trying.

The toxic personal development ideals really prove to be problematic to our actual self development. It creates this pressure to be always working on yourself, fixing the flaws, looking to be a better version of yourself or more enlightened or healed.

But the issue is that we can never 'better' ourselves from a place of pressure or shame. Believing we aren't good enough exactly as we are just reinforces low self worth, and nothing good can come from that. Nothing long lasting anyway. Always pursuing something more, something better, chasing peace and healing - that hamster wheel gets extremely exhausting and you just end up feeling a failure when inevitably you end up totally burnt out.

You organically create a 'better' version of you, just by being you. Just loving who you are right now. No judgements, no pressure. Just accepting yourself for you you are - the good, the bad, the trauma, the everything. When you accept and love yourself for who you are now - that's when the magick happens.

There is no formula, programme, course, book or guru that can teach you how to be a better you. YOU are the expert in who you are. The authentic you, the unmasked you, the you that embraces all part of you through human chaos. Starting to love yourself harder is the only key to a more peaceful, healed and 'better' you.

Hey, it's only taking me decades to get to this realisation - as I write this at 6am after no sleep eating chocolate pastries and feeling the perimenopause sweats start - no, I am not using this time to meditate or journal. I'm writing this realising I'm fucking good enough as I am right now - even when I choose chocolate over meditation, because like you - I'm only human.

If you want the freedom to just be human and take the pressure off being everything you 'should' be, then come join me in the normalising of being human!

(Image is an unfiltered photo of Luna in no make up, big black jumper on, smiling to the side as she holds a blue plate in one hand and a chocolate croissant with the other)